When I was 12 years old we moved from the big city of Atlanta to the tiny town of The Rock, Georgia. Tiny may even be an understatement. There were only 89 people there, so I’m truly not exaggerating. Because it was so small we lived most of our lives in Thomaston, about seven miles away, a quiet mill town, complete with a town square and the Ritz theater. A place where you really didn’t have to lock your doors, where Friday night high school football was a ritual, where children call women by their first name, preceeded by “Miss.” I loved it immediately.
Throughout our young lives Thomaston supported me and my sister and brother. When I won the local Jr. Miss pageant, the convenience store put “Congratulations, Kim” on the marquee out front, right above the price of gas. When my sister became Peach Bowl Queen there was a tiny brigade of people waiting in the freezing cold outside the local bank to welcome her home. When we played tennis and won there were articles in the paper.
So, naturally, when it was time to promote my book about being left at the altar Thomaston also showed up, even though I have long moved away. Trisha, who owns The Prescription Shop (bookstore in the back) called and invited me to come for a book signing. I couldn’t wait.
There have been lots of such events in the month and a half since my book’s release. All with wonderful people, all supportive and encouraging, but there really is nothing like going home. Those were the people who knew you when you were an awkward teenager, an aspiring tennis player or writer or young person trying to find her place in the world, all while navigating the sometimes choppy waters of life. They were the ones who may just have recognized something in you before you did. Coming home to them, with my book in hand, was a proud moment, indeed.
They all showed up, my fifth grade teacher Mrs. Birdsong, my ninth grade science teacher, Mrs. Worsham, my mom’s old friends, Peggy and Sheila, who (naturally) brought homemade brownies and punch, and, of course, my childhood friends, like Sherry and Merry and Robin—women who were just as they were all those years ago, still warm and wonderful, funny and fun, and full of love. After the signing we drove out to Piggy Park, the car hop barbecue joint that’s been there for more than half a century, the same place we went as teenagers when we first could drive. Conversation happend like it had never ended. Picked up right where we left off twenty five years ago. No trivial, casual banter—but talk about the heavy, the hard, the life-changing things that have made these women even more special, more amazing than they already were.
I took my twelve year old niece, Reed, to Thomaston that day. I wanted her to see, up close and personal, the people, the place, that made me and her mother who we are today. I wanted this child of the city to see what small town America is and how it feels to be loved and nurtured and supported and encouraged by people who aren’t related to you and nothing to gain. I think she saw it loud and clear.
As we hugged my friends goodby and drove out of Piggy Park on the road out of rural Georgia and back to the city we were both pretty quiet. Finally she said, “Kiki, I wish our whole family could move to Thomaston. I like it there.” My heart was so full and so happy that this child had “gotten it.” So happy that she wasn’t so hardened by the big city, where life is frenetic and relationships disjointed, that even at twelve years old she could appreciate a place where kids still say ‘Yes ma’am,” and “No Sir.”
I wish she could know a place like that in her own life. But maybe I can do the next best thing…take her back there as often as possible, let her be with these people, and show her that our country still has quiet, still places.

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March 27, 2009 at 3:00 pm
Jay Barber
I’ll echo the comments here about the fine folks of Thomaston, Georgia. I have tried a couple of cases “down there” in Upson County, and the folks on the jury were the most pleasant I’ve been around. The bailiffs brought me coffee in the mornings before trial, even though I was one of those “Atlanta lawyers” they told me they don’t always like so much! Judge Johnnie Caldwell even invited me in to chambers “to find out about me and my family, and where I was from.” That kind of thing never happens in Atlanta.
I’m sorry I didn’t get to visit the Piggy Park, but was told about it while I was there and regretted not stopping on the way back North….
Thomaston is a great small town, and everyone reading should visit. I could live there….
March 28, 2009 at 5:04 am
Sherry Brazelton
Kim,
It was so wonderful getting to see you, again. Even though our time was short at Piggie Park, we were still able to say alot (without saying alot). What a fun place to recapture the past, bring up the present and our hope for the future. To me, it is true frienship when you can pick up where you left off even though it may have been months (or years) since two have talked. You have always been a special friend, as well as those we shared time with Saturday. Thanks for bringing Reed with you (“LIL’ Kim” ’cause she looks just like ya). I meant it when I told her she was welcome to come to Thomaston any time…and stay with us. The door is always open for you and your family!!! I am so proud of you and your accomplishments.
March 31, 2009 at 1:03 am
Brenda
I just wanted to say that I just read your book, Left at the Altar, and it really helped and encouraged me. I just ended a relationship and I ‘ve been heartbroken over it. Even though I was the one who ended the relationship, the grief, the thoughts going through my mind that I’ll never be loved by a man again, all of the things you described in the book as feelings you felt, have been happening to me. Your book explained what’s been happening, the process, what to expect and how to move on. It has been painful but immensely helpful. I now have hope and can see a future for myself, where I could not before.
Thank you so much.
Brenda
April 8, 2009 at 1:35 am
DR RICHARD GILSTER
DEAR KIM,
GREETINGS IN THE WONDERFUL NAME OF OUR LORD & SAVIOUR JESUS
CHRIST !! I JUST RAN ACROSS YOUR ARTICLE ON CBN.NET !!
BEING LEFT AT THE ALTAR, I KNOW WAS VERY PAINFUL AND HURTING,
AND I AM SO HAPPY GOD BROUGHT YOU THROUGH IT ALL TO VICTORY !! AS SOMEONE SAID, YOU MUST HAVE A TEST, BEFORE YOU
CAN HAVE A TESTIMONY !! IT IS NOT WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH,
BUT IT IS WHAT YOUR GOING TO !! AS THE BIBLE SAYS, WE ARE GOLD
TRIED IN THE FIRE !! I HAD A DREAM AS A BOY, TO SOMEDAY BE A GREAT
FOOTBALL STAR, BUT I DID NOT MAKE THE HIGH SCHOOL FOOTBALL TEAM !!
I WAS VERY BROKEN HEARTED !! GOD HAS GIVEN EACH OF US, DIFFERENT TALENTS, AND ONE OF THE TALENTS,GOD GAVE ME, AND THAT
WAS A GOLDEN SINGING VOICE !! I SANG ” DEEP RIVER” AT THE MUSIC
FESTIVAL, AND I RECEIVED A SUPERIOR PLUS RATING, AND I WENT ON
TO THE STATE MUSIC FESTIVAL, AND RECEIVED SUPERIOR RATINGS !!
I WAS SO THANKFUL TO GOD FOR THIS GREAT BLESSING !!
OF ALL THE HURTING PEOPLE OUT THERE, THERE IS HOPE !! THE BIBLE
SAYS, UNLESS WE FORGIVE THOSE WHO HAVE DONE US WRONG,NEITHER
WILL THE LORD FORGIVE YOU !! JUST BECAUSE YOU FORGIVE A PERSON,
FOR THE WRONG THEY HAVE DONE, DOES NOT MEAN WE CONDONE THE
WRONG THEY HAVE DONE TO US, BUT GOD WANTS US TO FORGIVE THEM !!
IT IS EASY SOMETIMES TO SAY, I FORGIVE YOU, BUT DO YOU REALLY MEAN
IT ? IN YOUR PRIVATE PRAYER, HERE IS WAY TO LET THE LORD, HELP
YOU TO FORGIVE THOSE, THAT HAVE HURT YOU !!
DEAR HEAVENLY FATHER, BY THE POWER OF YOUR HOLY SPIRIT,
I FORGIVE ALL THOSE PEOPLE THAT HAVE HURT AND DONE ME WRONG !! I THANK YOU LORD, THAT BY THE POWER OF YOUR HOLY
SPIRIT, THAT I HAVE FORGIVEN ALL THESE PEOPLE, THAT HAVE HURT
ME, AND DONE ME WRONG !! NOW DEAR JESUS, PLEASE COME INTO
MY HEART & LIFE, RIGHT NOW, AND PLEASE FORGIVE ME OF ALL MY SINS, RIGHT NOW !! I THANK YOU LORD FOR FORGIVING ME OF ALL
MY SINS, AND GIVING ME A CLEAN AND PURE HEART , AND NOW
DEAR JESUS, I ACCEPT YOUR FREE GIFT OF SALVATION, RIGHT
NOW, AND I BELIEVE THAT I AM SAVED OR BORN AGAIN NOW !!
THANK YOU JESUS, FOR SAVING ME AND GIVING ME ETERNAL LIFE !!
LORD, I NEED YOUR POWER TO LIVE THIS LIFE, SO I ASK YOU TO
PLEASE FILL ME AND BAPTIZE ME WITH YOUR PRECIOUS HOLY SPIRIT,
NOW AND CONTINOUSLY !! THANK YOU LORD FOR SAVING ME AND
FILLING ME WITH YOUR BLESSED HOLY SPIRIT , THIS DAY !!
AND DEAR GOD, PLEASE HELP ME TO PRAY AND READ MY BIBLE,
EVERY DAY, AND PLEASE HELP ME TO ATTEND A GOOD BIBLE
BELIEVING CHURCH, EVERY SUNDAY !! I LOVE YOU JESUS !! THY WILL
BE DONE, IN JESUS NAME, AMEN !!
THANK YOU KIM, FOR LETTING ME SHARE, AND IF I CAN HELP,
OR COUNSEL OR PRAY, WITH ANYONE , PLEASE CONTACT ME !!
THANK YOU FOR SERVING JESUS KIM, AND KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK !! MAY I SUGGEST, THAT YOU PUT A PLACE ON YOUR WEBSITE,
FOR PEOPLE TO CONTACT YOU, IN CASE THEY WANT YOU TO SING
OR SPEAK AT THEIR CHURCH !!! EXPECT A NEW MIRACLE EVERY DAY !! GO WITH GOD, AND GOD WILL GO WITH YOU !!
GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS YOU RICHLY, AS YOU DO GOD’S PERFECT
WILL FOR YOUR LIFE !!
LOVE IN CHRIST JESUS,
CHAPLAIN OF THE STARS
DR RICHARD GILSTER
LAS VEGAS, NEVADA USA
EMAIL SINGALONGRICH@AOL.COM
April 10, 2009 at 2:01 am
VL
Hi Kimberly,
I praise the Lord for what He did in your life and for the ministry He has begun because of your past pain. I could relate to your book on almost every level and I know many other women are walking the same path I am today. I do want to share my situation with you and hope to hear back from you and your thoughts on my situation..even though I understand you are a very busy woman. Well, I lost the love of my life, my best friend, and the man I shared all my “firsts” with, almost 3 years ago. Right before our official engagement, he decided to end everything with me and of course, the pain was unbearable. Our relationship had its struggles and there was one issue that could not be resolved in our control…but we still deeply cherished each other and wanted to grow old together. After the breakup, we continued to stay close and he would continue to tell me that he loved me and hoped we could get married someday..so I clung to that hope, and in a way it kind of eased my pain. This went on for about another year, until suddenly, he disappeared out of my life and I was devastated. So broken beyond belief, I became suicidal and didnt have a reason to live. Unfortunately, after that I created a cycle in which I would keep going back to him –even though I knew each time he would just hurt me deeply and reject me…but somehow, the “high” of just having him back in my life as a “friend” made up for the inevitable rejection that occurred every single time. Yet something in me wanted SO badly for his love and only his love and I held onto that hope for almost 2 more years. My friends and family did not understand this, so I began to hide it from them. I knew in my heart that I was allowing this emotional abuse into my life and that I had an addiction to that relationship. I tried “dating” other guys but could still not be set free from that addiction to be with my first love. Finally three months ago, I realized that I needed to end the cycle when I discovered that he was involved in a relationship again. Hearing that from him just ripped open any of the wounds that was desperately trying to close. You would think that it would have gotten easier since I had been hurt by him so many times, but I STILL get so discouraged because thoughts of him, our past, and him moving on torment me still…3 years later after the breakup. I’ve been trying to cling to the Lord, to rebuild my life and identity in Him..but still feel in bondage to that neediness for my ex and still grieve deeply over that loss. My question is this..what is wrong with me? Will I ever wake up and not feel this deep pain? I know that those feelings are normal..but not after 3 years of a loss, I’ve never heard of someone grieving over a breakup for so long. I know my identity, purpose in life, and my all was wrapped up in him, but still, why is this pain continuing? Thank you for reading my long story. I thank you in advance for any encouragement or pointers you could give me to bring me to hope. God Bless you!
April 10, 2009 at 7:14 pm
Andrea
Hello to both Kim and Brenda and others out there feeling the grief of a broken heart.
I am two months out of a relationship with a man I wanted to and did give the world to. I ended it also. Even tho I ended it, he is the one who is already in a new relationship- like we never existed. I wonder why I am the one stuck here grieving with all my might- and he has so easily passed through that process. It is good in a way, it helps me know there is no chance of reconiliation, and I can move on.
I have only read half of Left at the Altar, but every other page I am reading I am crying because it is sooo TRUE!! It is me to a “T”. I too ask GOD everyday, not just for the pain in my heart, but why others have to go through so much PAIN, from things that in no way touch my little relationship issue. But it still hurts. Kim stated in her book that one things that hurts so much is no losing the person themself- but the FUTURE you had so saw and hoped for- the happiness, the next steps. This is so true and something I find the hardest to let go.
I would love to chat with someone who has also recently been through a rejection or break-up. I have tried to find blogs on this topic and not sure what I am doing or looking for I guess. So please if anyone out there wants to be “break-up” buddies and have someone to talk to- please contact me kerszy@yahoo.com
Thank you Kim for your book- Andrea
April 17, 2009 at 4:00 am
Michele Helms
I am so excited for you! I have watched you over the years and enjoyed how you have managed to bring your Christian faith into your work. I pray Gods best for you!
May 25, 2009 at 3:19 am
Abby
I just finished reading “Left At the Alter” and it really has been my best friend in this horrible time in my life!!!! I was brutally rejected by the man I thought I was going to marry….He left me for another girl, and I didn’t even see it coming. He gets to be happy, and I am the one grief stricken! I know God has great plans for me, it’s just getting through the grief that is hard…but this book has REALLY helped me a lot! I no longer feel like I am alone in this! And I do know that there is hope!!!! Praise God for the good He can bring out of bad situations!!!!! I am sorry you had to go through what you did, but the Lord has sure used you in my life. If you don’t see the happy ending in this life…I promise you, you will have so many rewards in Heaven for what this book has done!